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The Therapist Takes Her Own Advice: Starting Over Again and Again and Again

Like many people, I feel like I’m always starting over. Starting back to the gym, starting to meditate again, starting to blog again, starting to eat healthy again…and the list goes on and on. I know those things are good for me. I’ve read the research, I’ve experienced the results, and yet time after time […]

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Beware of “Mean Girl” Mommies

Becoming a mom can make you feel vulnerable and isolated. This is compounded when you find yourself in a new community without a support system. You eagerly open yourself up to other moms expecting to find people who share and understand your need for camaraderie. When instead you find the kind of judgment, cattiness and […]

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8 Tips to Help Kids Manage a Move

Many families move over the summer which means back to school is particularly stressful for the kids. Two years ago my family experienced this when we moved to a new home in a new community. The prospect of moving made my usually easygoing 9-year-old son anxious and afraid. He understood why we had to move. We […]

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Improve Your Life with DBT: Crisis Survival Skills

Pain, both physical and emotional, is part of life. At some point, everyone experiences it. As Longfellow wrote, “Into each life some rain must fall.” Still, you don’t have to stand out in the rain and get wet. You can use an umbrella or go inside. Similarly, there are things you can do to manage […]

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Hair Color, Nail Polish and Princess Shoes

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I was thrilled earlier this summer when I was asked to put a ponytail in my child’s hair. As the mother of 3 boys, it was something I didn’t count on. My 11 year old has grown his bangs out to look like a Youtuber named Dan TDM. The bangs were getting in his eyes […]

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Mindfulness in Three Easy Steps

Recently, when I informed my 11 year old that he had to set aside his afterschool plans for fun with friends to attend his acting class his mouth tightened and tears filled his brown eyes. I was shocked to see this from a boy who loves this class and has never wanted to skip it. […]

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Why do Parties with Kids Always End in Disaster?

I love having parties at our house and it also scares me to death. A few weeks ago, in honor of my undergraduate alma mater’s participation in the Final Four (Let’s not talk about the game because the University of Oklahoma lost miserably to Villanova) we had a little gathering at our house. My husband […]

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Should Therapists Use Social Media? | BlogHer

Finding a therapist today is a little like online dating. It’s not that much of a stretch; therapy is a relationship after all. For it to be effective, the client needs to be at least as emotionally vulnerable with a therapist as with a potential partner. Things get personal in therapy from the very beginning. […]

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8 Tips for Conquering the Dark Side of Early Motherhood

Being a mother is something you’ve always known you wanted. As you counted down the days until the baby came you fantasized about how wonderful it would be to care for your beautiful baby. You imagined holding your baby in your arms, pushing your baby through the park, kissing the tiny toes as your baby […]

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My Unusual Relationship with McDonald’s French Fries

I drove through McDonald’s today and I got a cheeseburger and fries. As I bit into a French fry, I had a flashback to childhood…a powerful sense memory of sitting in a McDonald’s in Norman, Oklahoma with my father. It was a scene repeated again and again and again throughout my youth. I’m sure many […]

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